⛱ Surviving Summer as a Neurodivergent Adult

Procrastination, hyperfocus hangovers, and juggling kids without the guilt

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The Quiet Office, Loud Brain

It’s that time of year. Procrastination is at its highest. Most people are on holiday, the kids are off school, and the office feels emptier.

Here’s the thing though, a quiet office isn’t actually restful for a procrastinating ADHDer. It can be challenging.

What the science says:

Research describes ADHD time as having just two settings: Now and Not Now. Deadlines don’t feel real until they’re right on top of us, and that last-minute panic is dopamine finally kicking in to help us start.

So when summer strips away deadlines and the general hum of other people’s urgency, it removes our fuel too. That “why can’t I just start this” feeling isn’t laziness. It’s neurology.

The urgency dips, and things get a bit more lax.

You’ve Earned the Slack

When you’ve worked hard all year, leaning on hyperfocus to push through, a couple of weeks of “lax work” isn’t going to hurt. If anything, it’s the system doing what it needs to do after running hot for months.

Two Jobs at Once: Work and Regulation

For those of us with kids off school for summer, it’s genuinely hard getting into work mode while they’re around. They need one-on-one time. And it’s worth remembering their mental health is at stake here too; kids out of routine can feel it, just like we do.

Unpredictability is a real stressor for a developing nervous system, not just an inconvenience.

So we end up juggling work while also trying to hold together some kind of routine for them.

That’s not “bad time management”; it’s genuinely two regulation jobs running at once, on a summer’s worth of reduced dopamine fuel. No wonder it’s exhausting.
The upside: many coworkers are in the same boat right now.

Where I’ll Be

My family’s off to Majorca for a week, trying to soak up some of that lax energy myself before term starts again.

Be Kind to Yourself

Enjoy the summer, and don’t be hard on yourself. That guilt that creeps in when things feel “too lax”? That’s worth naming too.

Many ADHDers carry a heightened sensitivity to perceived failure, sometimes called rejection sensitive dysphoria, which can turn a completely normal, summer slowdown into a spiral of self-criticism.

The slowdown isn’t proof you’re failing. It’s your nervous system finally getting a break from running on borrowed urgency all year.

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Lastly,

Stay Different,

The AuDHD Exec

Disclaimer: I am not your psychiatrist, coach, doctor. Neurodiverse Diary does not provide medical services or professional counselling and is not a substitute for professional medical care. Everything I publish represents my opinions, experience, not advice.

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